Guest Blogger| Passionista Brandi Thompson |Just Give Me Jesus

Hello Passionista-

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Brandi Thompson is a dear sweetheart I had the pleasure of meeting during my days attending The “Unsinkable” Albany State University. She has a joyful spirit that makes you smile every time you are in her presence even if you’re not in the mood for smiles and laughs. I had a change to watch her grow from a freshman to the AMAZING women is she today. I look forward to more of her greatness as she walks in her passion.

Now introducing my FIRST ever Guest Blogger and fellow Passionista, Brandi Thompson…. 

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Living in a world filled with famous sayings, its hard not to start a blog without one… For the longest, my favorite was: “not all who wander are lost”. Little did I know, I was living my “best life” on a lie.  For 22 years, I wandered. Truthfully, I was lost. Dangerously, I was so lost I didn’t even realize I needed to be found. Honestly, all who wander are lost.

 

 

How lost, is lost?

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From the age of 11, the taste of liquor satisfied my curiosity for the “good life” I would see on VH1 and MTV.  It was like the stock market – high risk, high reward – The higher the shelf, the better the taste. For 11 years, I struggled with blacked out drunken nights, near death intoxication, and a loose sense of moral direction.

From the age of 13, I chose to jump in and out of relationships with guys just to appease my insecurities. Being touched cured my need to be loved. A title soothed my longing for identity no matter where it came from. For 9 years, I indulged in a series of soul ties with many men (and 1 woman if I’m being honest) whose inner connection gave me “peace”.

From the age of 18, my wandering led me away from the nest of home to a new land to roam – ready to be conquered. With no sense of identity, purpose, and security, my aimless journey led me into the arms of an emotionally abusive man. I convinced myself that ‘leaving was easy’ and ‘my damage has to be worth something’. For 3 years, I endured an emotionally debilitating relationship built off a false perception of mental fortitude all to say I was “loved”.

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For 22 years, I wandered and filled my heart with the joys of the world, adding layers of darkness to my heart, building a life on sinking sand. My wandering grew dark, cold, depressing… the person I displayed was never an accurate depiction of the dying person I was on the inside. I was beginning to understand why suicide seemed to be the answer 9 years ago.  Being at war with my reality and convictions created a battle of inner conflict that I began to question my own purpose for being here.… After 22 years of wandering, all of the questions I had, the “good life” I was longing for, the “peace” is desperately needed, and the “love” I was searching for all could be found in one place…. The answer to it all was Jesus.

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“There is nothing I desire that can’t be found in you. You’re everything that I’ve ever needed… Just give me Jesus!”

 

 

 

The new passion I found to live the life God has called me to live has redefined my life. His plans have surpassed my expectations of the life I thought I was supposed to have. His will has created a new perspective of what really matters in the world.

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What good is my business if my family isn’t truly saved?

What good is owning a home & nice car if salvation hasn’t reached all four corners of the Earth?

What good is my life, or anyone else’s, without Jesus?

In Him, you will find your identity – the knowledge to recognize you’re a child of the most high.

In Him, you will find your purpose – the reason He created you to be here.

In Him, you will find your stability – the foundation to stand firm on your purpose.

Inwardly, there has always been a love to help people with a problem and to have a great time with amazing people. No wonder event planning and designing party décor became my career aspiration. As I continue to give my life’s plan to God, He continues to open my eyes of how HE wants me to solve problems by having a great time with HIS amazing people for the Kingdom.  There is so much peace in his plan! You may be thinking, “well what about my dreams?”

Be passionate about your business. Be dedicated to your education. Be invested in the present life you are walking in. Embrace the development taking place in each season you are in. Seek correction and direction from the wise ones who surround you. Develop your talent, master your craft, and perfect your gift. Do all of this while posturing your heart to desire the One. In Him, you, your plans, your goals, and your business will have identity, purpose, and stability!  

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What good are our passions without a true Passion for Christ?

All who wander are lost… but I pray you wander into arms of Jesus.  

 

 

 

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Target Beauty Box | October Review

Hello Passionista!

You all know that I love the Target Beauty Box. I don’t get them as often as I’d like cause some months I forget to go order them or when I do go to order them, they are all sold out. So, in the rare event that I do get a beauty box or 2 I be LIT!!!!!!!

img_0409This box is all about EYES & honestly I wasn’t excited about it when I received it. Eye drops are not something I use often. But it’s useful to have them around the house if I ever need them. I don’t know what I will need eye drops for. I may just pass the sample along to one of my friends that wear contacts. So, the Lumpy Eye Drops are useless to me, but I like the packaging.

I love the COVERGIRL brand. But I have not mastered the the art of liquid eyeliner yet. I almost hate that every beauty box comes with an eyeliner. I have so many of them now. They all get thrown in my “must try one day” basket just like that COVERGIRL Get In Line Liquid Eyeliner. I should really start practicing applying eyeliner… like a bond cat eye style. Cause I would rock just a fresh face, eyeliner and mascara everyday. I mean I do that now but my eyeliner job is very basic. Like just water line basic.

Mascara is my favorite makeup item. Even if I don’t wear any other makeup, mascara I will apply. Unlike the eyeliners its rewarding to get a mini mascara in every beauty box… every month. I have so many different types that’ll never run out. Although COVERGIRL mascara is my top fave, this Maybelline Lash Sensational Mascara Mini will come in handy. Most times the mini bottles last about a month. So every month I switch to a new sample.

Just like I haven’t mastered the art of applying eyeliner, I don’t know how to slay my eye brows. Maybe I should take a make up class? Find a MUA that’s good at teaching. This Sonia Kashuk Essential Brush Brow & Spool is a awesome tool but I don’t know how to use it.

I was most excited for the Acura Radically Under Eye Hydrogel Mask and then most disappointed in the product. I use a reusable gel eye mask weekly. It was my first time using a  Hydrogel Mask and it didn’t go well for me. The gels broke apart as I picking it up. So I didn’t even get to use it…. talking about mad!

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Now this Beauty Box I can rock with… I’ve been trying different natural toothpastes this Tom’s Luminous White Toothpaste with Fluoride is a new one to try. I’ve tried one of the other Tom’s toothpastes before and different have any complaints, so I’m pretty sure I’ll love this one too. I haven’t use it yet cause I just opened a new tube of toothpaste and I don’t believe in wasting toothpaste. Use one tube at a time.

I have been wanting to try the Love Beauty and Plant brand. I used the Love Beauty and Plant Coconut Water & Mimosa Flower Shampoo & Conditioner once and now I’m in love with it. For one, it smells soon amazing. Two, my hair felt really clean. Three, after conditioning my hair feels soft and not having to detangle was a great feeling.

I have been using the Honest Beauty Gel Cleanser from a previous beauty box. But now that I’ve tried this Bliss Makeup Melt Dry/Wet Gentle Jelly Cleanser with Rose Flower I’m interested. I like to use my facial cleanser brush when applying product to face. My gentle and my skin feels clean after use.  Although this is just a sample size I think I will get a good amount of usage out of this sample. I’ve had the Honest Beauty cleanser for a least a month or two.

I love using cetaphil lotion on my face. It’s not harsh and it gets the job done. I actually already have the full size product. But this samples size Cetaphil Moisturizing Lotion will be great for travel & much needed with the holidays coming up.

This Olay Total Effects Whips I have received in at least 3 beauty boxes. I have only been able to use up one samples so I still have two. I love the matte finished and how creamy the formula is without leaving your face greasy.

Okay, so do you like the Target Beauty Boxes? Do you get them every month or every once and a while? 

#SelfcareNovember | Week Recap

Hello Passionista…

VOTE TODAY! YOU’RE VOTE MATTER! YOUR VOICE CAN BE AND WILL BE HEARD!

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November has been pretty amazing so far. There is so much to look forward to between now and the end of the month. If you follow my social media accounts, I have been posting my daily recaps of the #selfcarenovember challenge. This challenge has really been going well for me. It is helping me slow down and be more mindful.

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Day 1: No Complaining for a day

I thought no complaining for a day would be hard, but what it lead to was me not talking much that day.  It was different but not so bad. I listened to music and podcasts most of the day and I felt much more energetic.

Day 2: Do something kind for someone else 

It was a long work week for me. Honestly, I don’t know why. It just seemed like the week dragged out. Friday on my way to working, I thought I’d get Krispy Kreme donuts for the office. Sweet treats always make me feel better and nothing is better than a warm donut about an hour after lunch. And I know if I had a long week, so did my coworkers.

Day 3:  Buy yourself a gift (something you really like)

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As I was in Big Lots I came across some nice smelling candles. I love candles, But I only buy bath and body works candles. I thought to myself, I can buy other brands of candles. If you like the scent get it. So I bought it. Big Lots is dangerous. I spend more money there, than I do in Target. That’s bad! Not really tho, cause Bigs Lots as great discount stuff for everything.

 

 

Day 4: Pamper Yourself 

Sunday was a great day for pampering myself. I woke up early and started cleaning up my place. I was even in the mood to rearrange some of my furniture for comfort. Once I was done cleaning, I took a hot bath, relax and listening to ” Don’t settle for safe” by Sarah Jakes Roberts.

Day 5: Write a letter to someone

I decide to write my letter to a decaesd loved one. It felt good to release some of those inner thoughts in a open letter.

Are you taking the challenge with me? How’s it going? Let’s dialogue!


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Self Care November

Happy November!

I can’t believe it is already November… 2018 is almost over!

So, many of y’all know I have been really into self care and trying to focus on taking better care of my mental, physical and emotional health.  As the year is coming to an end, I have been really working towards accomplishing my goals, finding myself (who I am as an adult?) and not stressing over things I can’t control. I’ve come to realize that self care is the best care. Sometimes you have to step outside yourself and evaluate the things  and people in your life? I have decided to make November a #selfcare month.

I realize that I am growing everyday. I’m not a teenager anymore. I’m not a college student anymore. I’m young still, but I’m an adult. A real adult!  This year has been a eye opener that I need to focus more on me and cater to my needs a little bit more than I have been. But that come with saying “no” and removing myself from thing that are unhealthy and not meaningful to me. I thought it would be easy but it’s honestly been hard. So here is my start to treating Khadijah better for Khadijah.

Take this journey with me for #selfcarenovember! All month I will be sharing my self care tips, jewels, and quotes on my social media outlets. I will also be blogging my experience, thoughts, feelings and emotions along this journey. I really want to create a open forum to release my inner complications and connect with people who may be going through or feeling the same as me. So, let’s connect!

Save the Self Care November 30- day challenge photo below and take the challenge with me. Be sure to share on social media using #selfcarenovember. You can follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter… I’ll be use to share and repost.

SN: I just realized next month is December …. that means BLOGMAS and blogs everyday… Lord help me! I do plan to participant this year. Blogmas is a whole lot, though. Planning blogs, prepping blogs, writing and editing blogs, just a lot. Pray for me.

Black Panther Party Group Costume | Halloween 2018

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!!!!!!

As a kid, I never really got to dress up for Halloween. So now, I love to get dressed up for Halloween and luckily so does my friends. Halloween is one of my besties favorite holiday, so I have to dress up no matter if I like it or not … lol

For the past 3 years, my sister gals and I have did group costumes. As hard as it is to get 6 girls with different preferences on one accord to decide on one idea that everyone likes, the finish product and the good time we have is always worth it.

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Year 1 we managed to achieve ” The Royal Flush” – DIY costumes made by me.

Year 2 we quickly put together “The Purge Trio“- DIY costumes put together by me.

 

 

 

This year, we pulled off the ” Black Panther Party” costumes put together by all of us.

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Honestly, this group costume was the easiest to put together. Everyone picked an all black outfit to fit there personal style and comfort level – because its was cold. We all purchases black gloves, black berets, and black sunglasses.

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My entire outfit is from Forever 21, but it was all stuff I already had in my closet (off shoulder sweater, Black ripped jeans, and booties).

Black Sunglasses from the Dollar Tree

Black Beret from Target ($12.99)

Black Gloves from Amazon ($7.99)

We hit the town for a fun night of loud music, dancing and eating sweet treats. I swear I had to much candy and cupcakes for comfort.

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I think we nailed the look, what you think?

Lipstick of the week

Hello Passionista

Fall is here and it is my time of year for dark lipstick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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One thing I love is a good dark color matte lipstick, like this by Mac in the color Instigator.

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I love the matte lipstick from Mac the formula is great, it doesn’t rub off as easy as other brands like Sephora and Milani. I do prefer matte liquid lipstick over the sticks but I still wear my sticks (cause I have a lot of them).

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All things Fall Mood Board

Hello Passionista

Fall is my favorite time of year. I love to be wrapped up in cozy fashions, drinking warm tasty drinks and enjoying the cool breeze.

Scarves

An fall outfit is not complete with a cozy scarf

My favorite places to purchase… Target, TJ Maxx, Lane Bryant

Cardigans + Booties Fashion

My fall fashion favorites are oversized cardigans and wraps with thicks socks and booties. I’ve even thought about trying to make my own winter body wrap scarf (comment below if you’d like that idea)

Favorite Places to Shop: Target, Boohoo, Debshop, Old Navy

Fall Eye Shadows

I love natural flesh tone eye shadow colors for fresh face fall. Everything from light pinks and blushes to marker wine (burgundy) and navy (blue) colors

Best Fall Palettes: BH Cosmetics, Covergirl

Knitting + Crafts

I am crafty and I love making stuff. Something about fall brings out the creative in me.

Best craft store: Hobby Lobby and Joans

Starbucks

Favorite Drink: Warm Sugar Cookie Latter

Candles

Candles set the mood for warm cozy comfort. So everyday I light candles all through the house.

Favorite Candles: Bath & Body Works

Autumn Sangria

Fall cause for celebration… with celebrations come cocktails and a cranberry sangria or autumn sangria are my choice of fun!

 

Book Review | We’re Going to Need More Wine: Stories, by Gabrielle Union

Hello Passionistas

 

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I know it’s been a while since I posted a book review. I still have my Audible subscription and I recently finished We’re Going to Need More Wine: Stories, written and narrated by Gabrielle Union.  

 

I must say, I didn’t know what to expect from a book written by Gabrielle Union. Honestly, I thought it would be a hollywood tell all book. But it’s not that at all. Yet it’s still good. It’s like mini conversations with Gabby. Just stories of life and how it works – good times, hard times, sad times, and happy times… Just life in the form of a book.

 

img_0425I love a good story and this book is full of good, relatable stories. Gabrielle Union explains the details of her childhood up to her career as an actress. So many stories of so many things that have happened to her and how things came together in her life. She’s a regular person. She has a normal story. With all her riches, many of her stories are not only entertaining but honest and real.

The book hit topics of being black raised in a white community, being raped and the aftermath, marrying the wrong person, and family heartaches. I love that not all of it was bad, there are good stories as well… like life on set and behind the scenes of Bring it on and Being Mary Jane and being invited to Prince’s A list Dinner parties- but most of all Love and Happiness.  This is not a book written by a bitter black women, this is a book written by an evolved black women. It’s her truth.

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It’s hard to pick a favorite chapter but I will say I went back to listen to Chapter 11: Prescription for a break up after I finished the book. But Chapter 6: Who hates you most, is hilarious!!! I literally hollered out loud listening to this chapter. Every chapter has a good story to share and a lesson to be learned. I give this book 5 stars and recommend it to all of you. I wish I could get my friends to do a book club with me because this would be a really good book to read and discuss with you day ones.

 

 

 

 

Lifestyle | Top 5 Obsessions

Hello Passionistas-

To start off the week, I thought I would share some of my latest obsessions ..

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I think I listen to podcasts more than I do music. And definitely the radio. The last time I listened to the radio, I was living in New York and would listen to Power 105.1 /the breakfast Club on my way to work every morning. But now, podcasts have all my attentions. I just watch the breakfast club on Youtube now, okkkkkkkur !!!!

Although true crime was my introduction to podcasts, I have grown to love and connect with so many podcast.

  • The Women Evolved Podcast by Sarah Jakes Roberts is a new listen for me but for the past 2 weeks, I have been binging every episode… honey! I love how inspirations she is. I first saw her on Facebook discover page clips of her preaching and I would always say this lady is speaking to me, Then somehow I found she had a podcast recently… it’s lit very morning on the ride to work thinking about if I agree with the rescue eve or not.
  • The Read with Kid Fury and Crissle is my weekly treat. I love the energy they put out into the world and the grind they are on. I support !!!! I’m a fan!!! So I every morning I get up and go to work like adults do and then I get off and grind for myself and the things I want to accomplish. Then Thursday evening comes and I lay back on my nice comfy sofa and laugh my ass off. Culture I Stand For.
  • Serial was the first podcast I ever listened to when season 1 launched. This was my introduction to investigative and true crime podcast. I am obsessed. I am loving season three, inside the court room. Stay ready so you don’t have to get ready.
  • Small Doses with Amanda Seales is becoming another treat. Well, maybe self care resource. Amanda is legit smart, funny and black.
  • Mediocre to  Masterful is a new podcast that a new friend of mine hosts and it is full of self help informations. After listening to 2 episodes my journal is full of charts, lists, and pages of reflect and planning for better.

 

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Beyonce graced us with the Vouge – September 2018 Issue and I thought I was going to miss out. Honey, every store I went to seem to not carry vogue, like huh? Where do I buy this magazine? Randomly, I went to CVS and found just 1, so I bought it. PURE BEAUTY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She is BEAUTY, I love it. Queen was working it.

 

 

 Youtube has taken over TV. From Vloggers to Bloggers and web series and educational content. Youtube is just like google. I love the Ellies, Giants, Raven Elyse, 85 South show

Almost every week I’m ordering from Amazon & I have even subscribed for Audible through amazon.

I bought a Plants (Aloe Vera) from Kroger and I have been loving having it handy for my skin. I’m aloe to cut pure aloe just to rub down my body in the showers or blend up a mask for my face and hair.

 

What are some of your obsessions?

DIY Wall Art

Hello Passionista!

One of my favorite YouTuber’s Raven Elysee inspired this DIY project after watching her Decorating My House DIY projects + New Furniture vlog. I have been re- decorating my apartment with more things of my style. I want every room and every decoration to reflect who I am as a person. I consider myself to be very creative, I love creating things. So a lot of my home decor will be D.I.Y projects. For instances, the Hexagon Shaped Shelves … click here to see blog.

For this project you’ll need:

  • Acrylic Paint – 3 colors (Midnight Blue, Pink, Nude)
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  • Metal Flakes
  • Paper Towels

 

 

 

 

I purchased an 8 pack of the 10 x 10 canvas, I had a vision of doing tiled art on one large wall in my living room space. My new color scheme for my living room space is Blue + Pink, so I used those colors. And it add a third color I used a fresh tone nude.

I started by laying out my canvas on a table.

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Staring with the darkest color first, I dropped dots of paint randomly all over  t

he canvas.

With a paper towel, I swiped the paint from left to right. Making streaks, sort of.

 

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Before starting a new color, I used my hair dryer to dry the paint.

First I applied blue, then pink, then the nude paint .

 

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Lastly, I took the metal flakes and just tore off a few small pieces and placed them on top of the wet paint at random.

 

 

Here is the Finished Product

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My living has double doors that lead out to the balcony. I decided to tile 4 of the canvas paints on each side of the double doors. As you walk into the front door the back wall and double doors are what you see. I think my abstract art looking good in this spot, even though I visioned something different. I want to add some greenery or plants to this view. Maybe a tall faux plant in each corner under the paintings.