Hello Passionista Kayla Heard is a new friend I’m getting to know. She and I are both full of amazing ideas, I hope we get to work together soon. In the meantime, I have asked… More
Brandi Thompson is a dear sweetheart I had the pleasure of meeting during my days attending The “Unsinkable” Albany State University. She has a joyful spirit that makes you smile every time you are in her presence even if you’re not in the mood for smiles and laughs. I had a change to watch her grow from a freshman to the AMAZING women is she today. I look forward to more of her greatness as she walks in her passion.
Now introducing my FIRST ever Guest Blogger and fellow Passionista, Brandi Thompson….
Living in a world filled with famous sayings, its hard not to start a blog without one… For the longest, my favorite was: “not all who wander are lost”. Little did I know, I was living my “best life” on a lie. For 22 years, I wandered. Truthfully, I was lost. Dangerously, I was so lost I didn’t even realize I needed to be found. Honestly, all who wander are lost.
How lost, is lost?
From the age of 11, the taste of liquor satisfied my curiosity for the “good life” I would see on VH1 and MTV. It was like the stock market – high risk, high reward – The higher the shelf, the better the taste. For 11 years, I struggled with blacked out drunken nights, near death intoxication, and a loose sense of moral direction.
From the age of 13, I chose to jump in and out of relationships with guys just to appease my insecurities. Being touched cured my need to be loved. A title soothed my longing for identity no matter where it came from. For 9 years, I indulged in a series of soul ties with many men (and 1 woman if I’m being honest) whose inner connection gave me “peace”.
From the age of 18, my wandering led me away from the nest of home to a new land to roam – ready to be conquered. With no sense of identity, purpose, and security, my aimless journey led me into the arms of an emotionally abusive man. I convinced myself that ‘leaving was easy’ and ‘my damage has to be worth something’. For 3 years, I endured an emotionally debilitating relationship built off a false perception of mental fortitude all to say I was “loved”.
For 22 years, I wandered and filled my heart with the joys of the world, adding layers of darkness to my heart, building a life on sinking sand. My wandering grew dark, cold, depressing… the person I displayed was never an accurate depiction of the dying person I was on the inside. I was beginning to understand why suicide seemed to be the answer 9 years ago. Being at war with my reality and convictions created a battle of inner conflict that I began to question my own purpose for being here.… After 22 years of wandering, all of the questions I had, the “good life” I was longing for, the “peace” is desperately needed, and the “love” I was searching for all could be found in one place…. The answer to it all was Jesus.
“There is nothing I desire that can’t be found in you. You’re everything that I’ve ever needed… Just give me Jesus!”
The new passion I found to live the life God has called me to live has redefined my life. His plans have surpassed my expectations of the life I thought I was supposed to have. His will has created a new perspective of what really matters in the world.
What good is my business if my family isn’t truly saved?
What good is owning a home & nice car if salvation hasn’t reached all four corners of the Earth?
What good is my life, or anyone else’s, without Jesus?
In Him, you will find your identity – the knowledge to recognize you’re a child of the most high.
In Him, you will find your purpose – the reason He created you to be here.
In Him, you will find your stability – the foundation to stand firm on your purpose.
Inwardly, there has always been a love to help people with a problem and to have a great time with amazing people. No wonder event planning and designing party décor became my career aspiration. As I continue to give my life’s plan to God, He continues to open my eyes of how HE wants me to solve problems by having a great time with HIS amazing people for the Kingdom. There is so much peace in his plan! You may be thinking, “well what about my dreams?”
Be passionate about your business. Be dedicated to your education. Be invested in the present life you are walking in. Embrace the development taking place in each season you are in. Seek correction and direction from the wise ones who surround you. Develop your talent, master your craft, and perfect your gift. Do all of this while posturing your heart to desire the One. In Him, you, your plans, your goals, and your business will have identity, purpose, and stability!
What good are our passions without a true Passion for Christ?
All who wander are lost… but I pray you wander into arms of Jesus.
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You all know that I love the Target Beauty Box. I don’t get them as often as I’d like cause some months I forget to go order them or when I do go to order them, they are all sold out. So, in the rare event that I do get a beauty box or 2 I be LIT!!!!!!!
This box is all about EYES & honestly I wasn’t excited about it when I received it. Eye drops are not something I use often. But it’s useful to have them around the house if I ever need them. I don’t know what I will need eye drops for. I may just pass the sample along to one of my friends that wear contacts. So, the Lumpy Eye Drops are useless to me, but I like the packaging.
I love the COVERGIRL brand. But I have not mastered the the art of liquid eyeliner yet. I almost hate that every beauty box comes with an eyeliner. I have so many of them now. They all get thrown in my “must try one day” basket just like that COVERGIRL Get In Line Liquid Eyeliner. I should really start practicing applying eyeliner… like a bond cat eye style. Cause I would rock just a fresh face, eyeliner and mascara everyday. I mean I do that now but my eyeliner job is very basic. Like just water line basic.
Mascara is my favorite makeup item. Even if I don’t wear any other makeup, mascara I will apply. Unlike the eyeliners its rewarding to get a mini mascara in every beauty box… every month. I have so many different types that’ll never run out. Although COVERGIRL mascara is my top fave, this Maybelline Lash Sensational Mascara Mini will come in handy. Most times the mini bottles last about a month. So every month I switch to a new sample.
Just like I haven’t mastered the art of applying eyeliner, I don’t know how to slay my eye brows. Maybe I should take a make up class? Find a MUA that’s good at teaching. This Sonia Kashuk Essential Brush Brow & Spool is a awesome tool but I don’t know how to use it.
I was most excited for the Acura Radically Under Eye Hydrogel Mask and then most disappointed in the product. I use a reusable gel eye mask weekly. It was my first time using a Hydrogel Mask and it didn’t go well for me. The gels broke apart as I picking it up. So I didn’t even get to use it…. talking about mad!
Now this Beauty Box I can rock with… I’ve been trying different natural toothpastes this Tom’s Luminous White Toothpaste with Fluoride is a new one to try. I’ve tried one of the other Tom’s toothpastes before and different have any complaints, so I’m pretty sure I’ll love this one too. I haven’t use it yet cause I just opened a new tube of toothpaste and I don’t believe in wasting toothpaste. Use one tube at a time.
I have been wanting to try the Love Beauty and Plant brand. I used the Love Beauty and Plant Coconut Water & Mimosa Flower Shampoo & Conditioner once and now I’m in love with it. For one, it smells soon amazing. Two, my hair felt really clean. Three, after conditioning my hair feels soft and not having to detangle was a great feeling.
I have been using the Honest Beauty Gel Cleanser from a previous beauty box. But now that I’ve tried this Bliss Makeup Melt Dry/Wet Gentle Jelly Cleanser with Rose Flower I’m interested. I like to use my facial cleanser brush when applying product to face. My gentle and my skin feels clean after use. Although this is just a sample size I think I will get a good amount of usage out of this sample. I’ve had the Honest Beauty cleanser for a least a month or two.
I love using cetaphil lotion on my face. It’s not harsh and it gets the job done. I actually already have the full size product. But this samples size Cetaphil Moisturizing Lotion will be great for travel & much needed with the holidays coming up.
This Olay Total Effects Whips I have received in at least 3 beauty boxes. I have only been able to use up one samples so I still have two. I love the matte finished and how creamy the formula is without leaving your face greasy.
Okay, so do you like the Target Beauty Boxes? Do you get them every month or every once and a while?
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November has been pretty amazing so far. There is so much to look forward to between now and the end of the month. If you follow my social media accounts, I have been posting my daily recaps of the #selfcarenovember challenge. This challenge has really been going well for me. It is helping me slow down and be more mindful.
Day 1: No Complaining for a day
I thought no complaining for a day would be hard, but what it lead to was me not talking much that day. It was different but not so bad. I listened to music and podcasts most of the day and I felt much more energetic.
Day 2: Do something kind for someone else
It was a long work week for me. Honestly, I don’t know why. It just seemed like the week dragged out. Friday on my way to working, I thought I’d get Krispy Kreme donuts for the office. Sweet treats always make me feel better and nothing is better than a warm donut about an hour after lunch. And I know if I had a long week, so did my coworkers.
Day 3: Buy yourself a gift (something you really like)
As I was in Big Lots I came across some nice smelling candles. I love candles, But I only buy bath and body works candles. I thought to myself, I can buy other brands of candles. If you like the scent get it. So I bought it. Big Lots is dangerous. I spend more money there, than I do in Target. That’s bad! Not really tho, cause Bigs Lots as great discount stuff for everything.
Day 4: Pamper Yourself
Sunday was a great day for pampering myself. I woke up early and started cleaning up my place. I was even in the mood to rearrange some of my furniture for comfort. Once I was done cleaning, I took a hot bath, relax and listening to ” Don’t settle for safe” by Sarah Jakes Roberts.
Day 5: Write a letter to someone
I decide to write my letter to a decaesd loved one. It felt good to release some of those inner thoughts in a open letter.
Are you taking the challenge with me? How’s it going? Let’s dialogue!
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I can’t believe it is already November… 2018 is almost over!
So, many of y’all know I have been really into self care and trying to focus on taking better care of my mental, physical and emotional health. As the year is coming to an end, I have been really working towards accomplishing my goals, finding myself (who I am as an adult?) and not stressing over things I can’t control. I’ve come to realize that self care is the best care. Sometimes you have to step outside yourself and evaluate the things and people in your life? I have decided to make November a #selfcare month.
I realize that I am growing everyday. I’m not a teenager anymore. I’m not a college student anymore. I’m young still, but I’m an adult. A real adult! This year has been a eye opener that I need to focus more on me and cater to my needs a little bit more than I have been. But that come with saying “no” and removing myself from thing that are unhealthy and not meaningful to me. I thought it would be easy but it’s honestly been hard. So here is my start to treating Khadijah better for Khadijah.
Take this journey with me for #selfcarenovember! All month I will be sharing my self care tips, jewels, and quotes on my social media outlets. I will also be blogging my experience, thoughts, feelings and emotions along this journey. I really want to create a open forum to release my inner complications and connect with people who may be going through or feeling the same as me. So, let’s connect!
Save the Self Care November 30- day challenge photo below and take the challenge with me. Be sure to share on social media using #selfcarenovember. You can follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter… I’ll be use to share and repost.
SN: I just realized next month is December …. that means BLOGMAS and blogs everyday… Lord help me! I do plan to participant this year. Blogmas is a whole lot, though. Planning blogs, prepping blogs, writing and editing blogs, just a lot. Pray for me.
As a kid, I never really got to dress up for Halloween. So now, I love to get dressed up for Halloween and luckily so does my friends. Halloween is one of my besties favorite holiday, so I have to dress up no matter if I like it or not … lol
For the past 3 years, my sister gals and I have did group costumes. As hard as it is to get 6 girls with different preferences on one accord to decide on one idea that everyone likes, the finish product and the good time we have is always worth it.
Year 1 we managed to achieve ” The Royal Flush” – DIY costumes made by me.
Year 2 we quickly put together “The Purge Trio“- DIY costumes put together by me.
This year, we pulled off the ” Black Panther Party” costumes put together by all of us.
Honestly, this group costume was the easiest to put together. Everyone picked an all black outfit to fit there personal style and comfort level – because its was cold. We all purchases black gloves, black berets, and black sunglasses.
My entire outfit is from Forever 21, but it was all stuff I already had in my closet (off shoulder sweater, Black ripped jeans, and booties).
Black Sunglasses from the Dollar Tree
Black Beret from Target ($12.99)
Black Gloves from Amazon ($7.99)
We hit the town for a fun night of loud music, dancing and eating sweet treats. I swear I had to much candy and cupcakes for comfort.
I think we nailed the look, what you think?
Fall is here and it is my time of year for dark lipstick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
One thing I love is a good dark color matte lipstick, like this by Mac in the color Instigator.
I love the matte lipstick from Mac the formula is great, it doesn’t rub off as easy as other brands like Sephora and Milani. I do prefer matte liquid lipstick over the sticks but I still wear my sticks (cause I have a lot of them).
Thought I’d share some of my latest favorites, what you crushin on?
Dickinson’s Original Witch Hazel
First things first … I love that is product is 100% all natural. I’m not really natural crazy when it come to products but this is a product I put on my face. And daily! Also I love that is product is fragrance free. Although it has that witch hazel scent, there is no perfumes added to alter the natural scent. I wish I could buy this in bulk (larger than 16oz) with like a little refill bottle or something. But the formula is great. I have been using this product for a little over a year, just to cleanse my face after every shower. I use cotton pads from the dollar tree to wipe my face, then I proceed to a mask or scrub.
Yes To Coconut Ultra Hydrating Paper Mask
I have a sweet thing for sheet mask. I must say I enjoy them more than spread a masks across my face and standing over a sink to wash it off. Yeah, I’m a little lazy. But that’s why someone started marketing sheet mask. I use them at least 2 times a week. Yes To sheet masks are always so soft. There literally made of cotton, which cause me to leave it on until it dries. Sometime! Yes To has the coolest packaging graphics. Yes To Coconut products really hydrates my skin and enhance my glow.
Neutrogena Hydro Boost Water Gel with SPF 15
This has been my life line since summer. Every morning after washing my face, I moisturize with this. I did not understand how much a little SPF helps. Honey! My skin tone has been even all year… I never happens. This product is my best friend. I love the the tap is bigger enough for the tube to stand up on the counter and small enough to carry around. But it was kind expensive so I hope this bottle last me a while.
Aveeno Active Naturals Smart Essentials Daily Detoxifying Scrub
I have had this product for at least a year. Theres’s no expiration date on the product so I hope thats okay. Basically I use this product the few days before and after getting a wax. Its a gentle exfoilator that feels good. Time to go buy another!
Lush Bath Bomb- Butterball
My absolutely favorite. An colleauge put me on to Lush and it changed my life. The butterball has been my favorite from the every beginning. I nice hot soak not bubbles, just hot water and oils. Such amazing self care.
Fall is my favorite time of year. I love to be wrapped up in cozy fashions, drinking warm tasty drinks and enjoying the cool breeze.
An fall outfit is not complete with a cozy scarf
My favorite places to purchase… Target, TJ Maxx, Lane Bryant
Cardigans + Booties Fashion
My fall fashion favorites are oversized cardigans and wraps with thicks socks and booties. I’ve even thought about trying to make my own winter body wrap scarf (comment below if you’d like that idea)
Favorite Places to Shop: Target, Boohoo, Debshop, Old Navy
Fall Eye Shadows
I love natural flesh tone eye shadow colors for fresh face fall. Everything from light pinks and blushes to marker wine (burgundy) and navy (blue) colors
Best Fall Palettes: BH Cosmetics, Covergirl
Knitting + Crafts
I am crafty and I love making stuff. Something about fall brings out the creative in me.
Best craft store: Hobby Lobby and Joans
Favorite Drink: Warm Sugar Cookie Latter
Candles set the mood for warm cozy comfort. So everyday I light candles all through the house.
Favorite Candles: Bath & Body Works
Fall cause for celebration… with celebrations come cocktails and a cranberry sangria or autumn sangria are my choice of fun!
Fall is here baby!
This liquid lipstick in the color wannabe by Tarte is one of my favorites for fall. Wannabe is the perfect universal dark nude for just about every type of outfit. It’s something about breezy and cold weather with a cardigan and dark lip stick that makes me feel fancy. I love how long it liquid formula lasts. I only had to apply once for the entire work day.
When using a lip pencil, I recommend matching Mac lip pencil in the color plum.
I know it’s been a while since I posted a book review. I still have my Audible subscription and I recently finished We’re Going to Need More Wine: Stories, written and narrated by Gabrielle Union.
I must say, I didn’t know what to expect from a book written by Gabrielle Union. Honestly, I thought it would be a hollywood tell all book. But it’s not that at all. Yet it’s still good. It’s like mini conversations with Gabby. Just stories of life and how it works – good times, hard times, sad times, and happy times… Just life in the form of a book.
I love a good story and this book is full of good, relatable stories. Gabrielle Union explains the details of her childhood up to her career as an actress. So many stories of so many things that have happened to her and how things came together in her life. She’s a regular person. She has a normal story. With all her riches, many of her stories are not only entertaining but honest and real.
The book hit topics of being black raised in a white community, being raped and the aftermath, marrying the wrong person, and family heartaches. I love that not all of it was bad, there are good stories as well… like life on set and behind the scenes of Bring it on and Being Mary Jane and being invited to Prince’s A list Dinner parties- but most of all Love and Happiness. This is not a book written by a bitter black women, this is a book written by an evolved black women. It’s her truth.
It’s hard to pick a favorite chapter but I will say I went back to listen to Chapter 11: Prescription for a break up after I finished the book. But Chapter 6: Who hates you most, is hilarious!!! I literally hollered out loud listening to this chapter. Every chapter has a good story to share and a lesson to be learned. I give this book 5 stars and recommend it to all of you. I wish I could get my friends to do a book club with me because this would be a really good book to read and discuss with you day ones.